Victoria's Secret Model Rosie Huntington-Whiteley Believes In Boob Padding, 'Chicken Fillets'


We already unearthed one of Victoria's secrets: the 20 layers of butt makeup necessary to get the girls runway-ready. But here's another classified tip courtesy of model Rosie Huntington-Whiteley in the Times UK: Bust out your 'chicken fillets.'
"I do believe in chicken fillets. I'm not saying you have to use them, but if anyone knows me and sees me in a photoshoot, well, there are friends in there. I'm not a fan of that whole push-up look in the day. But, of course, you do need a lift with a sexy dress, so do what you've got to do, girls--shove them in there. I've been known to have three in at a time for shoots--plus padding."
She also revealed that she won't do a lingerie shoot unless she's tanned.
"I think most women will admit that they look better when they're brown. I fake tan--but I don't recommend sunbeds--and at work, they'll put body make-up on."
Chicken? Tanning? Doesn't Rosie have any advice for those of us who operate on the lazy end of the sexy spectrum?
"Good sexy bedroom hair should be just a little tousled, nothing too neat. Also, drink a big bottle of water every day, as it will take away puffiness--Fiji is best. Everybody rolls their eyes at this tip, but it does work--water is the drug of God, that's what I say."
Check out Rosie's plan in action in the Pirelli 2010 Calendar.
READ MORE - Victoria's Secret Model Rosie Huntington-Whiteley Believes In Boob Padding, 'Chicken Fillets'

Mind games on the menu: The psychological tricks restaurants use to part us from our money

Meals for two don't always represent the best value for money
REX FEATURES
Meals for two don't always represent the best value for money
    READ MORE - Mind games on the menu: The psychological tricks restaurants use to part us from our money

    Russell Hantz Oil Company Does Not Exist!

    Are you following CBS “Survivor” for the past week? Then you must know Russell Hantz. He is not the Survivor winner, but he was voted the Survivor Samoa “Sprint Player of the Season” by fans.

    In the 19th installment of the reality series, Survivor: Samoa, 26 year old Natalie White won the first prize. Russell wouldn’t go home empty-handed, however: the surprisingly tearful runner-up won the $100,000 fan favorite prize for Player of the Season.

    According to source, Russell Hantz is a 36-year-old married, father of four. He stands at 5′6″ . He owns his own oil company, believed to be called Hantz tankering service. Russell Hantz’s oil company has made him a multimillionaire.

    But there have been question whether Russell Hantz actually owns a oil company since he has been lying greatly on the show to his tribemates. He told them that he is a fireman who lost his home and dog Rockey to hurricane Katrina.

    Meanwhile, rumor is spreading that Russell Hantz will be on the Survivor Season 20, Heroes VS. Villain’s, so let’s hope for that. He is the ultimate villain!

    Readers, what do you think about Russel Hantz, Survivor Samoa Sprint Player of the Season? Is he lying about his personal life in his public bio about being an oil company owner?

    Pure Salon & Spa Koramangla, Bangalore

    Led by veteran hair stylist Pure Salon & Spa offers various services from the simple hair cut and styling for women, men, kids, and brides, to vibrant hair colours, conditioning treatments, and Brazilian blowouts. Located at the heart of Koramangla, Bangalore, the salon has been around since 2015, providing professional hair treatments in a relaxed ambience. This is definitely one of our favourite hair salons in Bangalore.

    READ MORE - Russell Hantz Oil Company Does Not Exist!

    Extreme fear: could you handle it?

    When disaster strikes, whether you live or die depends on how you react to the crisis…
    fear
    Illustration: Matt Murphy
    If you suddenly found yourself in a life-or-death crisis and had to make a decision that would either save your life or end it, are you confident you'd make the right one? People in the state of Victoria, Australia, faced just such a decision in February and March this year. For five weeks, catastrophic brush fires swept across the state. Government policy held that when fire threatened a neighbourhood, homeowners were to make a choice: stay and fight to save their houses, or evacuate early. They were explicitly instructed not to wait until the flames were close. Trying to run from an advancing wildfire is the surest way to die in it.
    The choice made sense in strictly rational terms. But in the wake of the devastation, a vociferous debate arose over the wisdom of the policy: can people be expected to make rational decisions, critics asked, when they're surrounded by 1,200C flames raging four storeys high?
    Most people have never faced imminent, lethal danger, and so couldn't possibly know how they would react to the experience of extreme fear. But, as thousands of Australians found out, danger can overtake us with surprising speed.
    Everyone in Melbourne knew that Saturday 7 February 2009 was going to be brutal. The southern summer had been a scorcher, with temperatures the previous week climbing above 43C (110F) three days in a row. That day the mercury was forecast to climb even higher. Winds were strong and a long drought had left the vegetation brittle and dry.
    In Glenburn, a farming community outside the city, Victoria University professor Ian Thomas spent the day listening for weather updates on the radio. An engineer, Thomas specialised in calculating the risk of fire in buildings. His house and lawn were surrounded by trees on all sides and abutted the eucalyptus forest of Kinglake national park: "We didn't need the forecast to tell us that it was dangerous," he says.
    At about 11am, high winds knocked down a power line that ran through pasture 25 miles to the north-west. Within hours, a roaring wall of flames was burning eastward. Then, at about 4pm, the temperature suddenly dropped. "We started to relax," Thomas says. "Nothing big had happened." Soon after, the power went out. Fifteen minutes later it came back on, then died again.
    What the radio broadcasts had failed to report was that the wildfire had spread all the way to the town of Kinglake, less than 10 miles from Thomas's home. The cooler breeze had fanned the flames to new intensity, and was driving them towards Glenburn at freight-train speeds. The first inkling of trouble came when a couple who lived nearby, Lou and Cheryl Newstead, pulled into the Thomases' driveway. They brought news that their son had just called to tell them the fire was heading their way. As they talked, the wind that was blowing in from the south darkened with smoke. Ash and glowing embers started dropping out of the air.
    "We went from not having any particular worries to having fire in our immediate vicinity very quickly," Thomas says. The decision point – stay or go – had arrived faster than anyone had anticipated. The neighbours decided to evacuate; the Thomases, to stay and defend. "My thinking was that they were foolish in driving off in that situation," Thomas says. "They didn't know what they were driving into." But his own situation was scarcely better. With the power out and the fire on their doorstep, the Thomases were entirely on their own. What they would not find out until much later was that the fire that was racing towards them had already become the deadliest single blaze in Australian history.
    The fire exploded up the ridge at 80mph. Hardest hit was a tidy neighbourhood of homes along Pine Ridge Road, Kinglake, where a triangle of land was flanked on two sides by steep hillside. Topography that once provided fine views over the southern plain now exposed them to fire from two directions at once. The entire community was caught unawares. There was no time to contemplate the options.
    Rob Richings, a service technician, decided to make a run for it once the windows of his house started to explode from the heat. "It's against the rules, but this wasn't a normal bush fire," he later said. As it was, he managed to drive through the flames and reach safety. Many others did not. Disoriented in the smoke, cars crashed into each other on the jammed road. Flames melted tyres and exploded fuel tanks. In one car, six people died together when their vehicle was consumed by fire.
    Staying put was just as much of a gamble. Another neighbour, Tina Wilson, planned to take her three children to the nearby home of Paul and Karen Roland, who were holed up with their two daughters. "The house has got sprinklers on the roof and we'll be fine," Wilson told her partner over the telephone. "I'll call you soon." Soon after, Karen Roland phoned her sister. "It's too late!" she yelled over the roar of the fire. "We're trapped!" They all perished.
    By the time the fire was burning its way through to the Thomases' tree line, 70 people were dead. Thomas had counted on his sprinkler system to protect his house and garden from the fire, but the pump was electric and the power lines were down. If he and his wife were going to fight the fire, they'd have to do it by hand, with buckets. The smoke grew so thick that it was impossible to see more than a few feet. "It was like a steam train coming at you," he says.
    Soon the fire had surrounded the house. Thomas and his wife had committed themselves to their decision. Whether or not it was the right one, they had no way of knowing. All they could do was handle themselves as best they could.
    The first step to dealing with a crisis is acceptance. Studies of disasters have found that many people remain in denial in the face of evident danger. Nightclub patrons continue to dance and order drinks as smoke fills a burning hall; passengers on a sinking ferry sit and smoke cigarettes as it lists ever more ominously to one side. This denial is driven by a mental phenomenon called "normalcy bias". Psychologists say that people who have never experienced a fatal catastrophe have difficulty recognising that one could be unfolding.
    For those who do accept what's happening, the most terrifying part of a crisis is likely to occur at the very beginning, while the full scope of the danger remains unclear. Anticipatory fear is often worse than the experience itself. Performers who throw up before every performance never throw up on the stage itself. The scariest part of jumping out of a plane is the instant before you leave the door. Psychologist Seymour Epstein conducted a study in which novice jumpers were fitted with heart-rate monitors that measured their pulse as their plane climbed upward toward its release point. He found that their heart rates got faster and faster until just before they jumped, declining precipitously once they were actually out of the plane. The most stressful part of the experience was the anticipation.
    Uncertainty in the face of danger magnifies stress by forcing a person to think about a wide range of possible outcomes and weigh the strategies for dealing with those outcomes. It also allows worst-case scenario thinking. A key early step to combating fear is to find out as much information as possible about the threat at hand.
    When we're facing a life-threatening situation for the first time, one of the biggest uncertainties we face is what will happen inside our own minds. Having been in danger before can help. When Dave Boon's car was struck by an avalanche on a road near Denver, US, he benefited from having been in another, very different, life-threatening situation two years earlier. He'd been white-water rafting when his boat was swept by the force of a rapid below an overhanging rock. Boon didn't panic, and the force of the water eventually pulled him free. Two years later, as he found himself tumbling end-over-end inside the avalanche, he knew he wouldn't panic then, either. And that was a powerful piece of information.
    The more control a person has over a threatening situation, the less anxiety it provokes. Numerous experiments have shown that being out of control of a negative situation leads to the release of the stress hormone cortisol. Engaged in useful activity, it's easier to stop thinking about your internal experience of fear and instead focus usefully on external things, such as improving your situation.
    Some people, such as optimists and extroverts, are generally more prone to take an active approach in a crisis. So are people who see themselves as capable of shaping the outcome of whatever situation they find themselves in. A related concept is self-efficacy, a person's belief that he or she is capable of accomplishing a given task. People with these character traits tend to perceive and take advantage of opportunities to change the situations they find themselves in.
    These are the sorts of people you want with you when the going gets hairy. In 1967, a raging winter storm trapped mountain climber Art Davidson and two friends in an ice cave near the summit of Denali, Alaska. Days went by as they slowly succumbed to hypothermia and starvation, nearly immobile in their tiny hole. They kept themselves going by making careful plans about the only thing over which they had any control, their meagre rations. When the food ran out, they managed to find another problem to grapple with: how to locate a cache of fuel that one of them remembered was hidden nearby. By stringing together a series of meagre hopes, they managed to survive six days, at which point the weather broke and they escaped down the mountain.
    Reframe
    An alligator can't make you scared. A skidding car can't make you scared. The only thing that can make you scared is your mind's interpretation of those things. Fear is a phenomenon that resides entirely within your brain. That's why the most powerful method of all for controlling fear is reappraisal. But some people are better at reappraisal than others. Studies have found that people who are able to think of events as challenging rather than threatening are able to cope better with their emotions, have more positive feelings, and are more confident.
    Marc Taylor, in a study of military personnel undergoing hyper-realistic combat training, found that subjects who relied on positive reappraisal to cope with their situation had lower levels of stress hormone in their bloodstream. Contrast that useful kind of positive thinking with the negative appraisal that's common to people in the throes of social anxiety.
    Sir Laurence Olivier was among the most gifted actors of the 20th century. But in 1964, when Olivier was 57 and had been performing for more than four decades, he was gripped by stage fright. On the opening night of Ibsen's The Master Builder, in which he had a starring role, he froze. It was the moment that actors dread.
    For those of us who have not experienced stage fright, it's difficult to grasp the impact of such a moment. But the terror is equivalent to that aroused by actual, mortal danger. The sympathetic nervous system launches into full overdrive, generating a physiological response appropriate to a life-or-death crisis. Actors say the sensation is a good deal like plummeting from a great height.
    Like a panic attack, stage fright often occurs in the wake of other stress in a person's life. And as with most forms of anxiety, once unleashed, it's a demon that continues to lurk in the margins of awareness, always threatening to reappear.
    Cognitive behavioural therapy is a powerful tool in overcoming anxiety disorders. Patients are taught to recognise when they're thinking unrealistically negative thoughts, and then deliberately to reassess the situation in a more positive light. But one doesn't need to go to a professional therapist. Anyone who's trying to get a grip on their emotions in the heat of a crisis can simply find someone to share their feelings with – or even say them aloud to themselves – in order to regain some control over their mental systems.
    As the fire raced toward the Thomases' home, they had no time to express their fear. They were too busy taking action. The fire swept through the trees surrounding their house until it was blazing around them in all four directions. With a crack, a huge gum tree shuddered and crashed on to their driveway, blocking them in. The fire kept creeping forward and the Thomases kept patrolling, checking their most vulnerable points, hurriedly lugging buckets of water to counter each new thrust. Keeping continuously active helped to keep fear at bay.
    As time went on, their growing store of information about the fire also reduced the stressfulness of the crisis. "The longer it went on, in a sense the more comfortable we got with it," Ian Thomas says, "because we started to feel that we'd already been to some degree successful, and we stood a chance of continuing to be successful."
    Finally, at around 2.30am, the situation appeared to stabilise. The fire had crept to within 15ft of the house, but the flames in the immediate vicinity were now out and the carpet of burned-out grass formed a protective barrier. Together, the weary couple collapsed and slept fitfully for three hours, keeping the blinds open so they could check for flare-ups.
    But the fight was not over. With the coming of the dawn, the wind began to build, whipping smouldering embers back into flame. Pockets of unburned vegetation erupted like roman candles. Thomas staggered outside to douse the most threatening flare-ups, but he was weak from the night's fight and suffering from heat stroke. He could not take even a sip of water without throwing up. Gradually, the flare-ups became less menacing and the Thomases began to relax. Except for their house, their property had been incinerated. But they were alive.
    The catastrophe of 7 February 2009 dwarfed any of Victoria's past wildfires. But it was just the beginning. The fire season in Victoria would ultimately claim 210 lives, destroy more than 2,000 homes and lay waste to a million acres of countryside. In the aftermath, the people of Victoria were left wondering whether the "stay or go" policy was to blame for unnecessary deaths. Some argued that the policy should be scrapped in favour of mandatory evacuation. Thomas disagrees – in his case, his and his wife's action had saved their house. "Being afraid puts you under stress, and that makes it much more difficult to make completely rational decisions," he concedes. "But in the end most people have a very strong survival instinct. They find ways to deal with the situation."
    READ MORE - Extreme fear: could you handle it?

    The Sin City VIP service that seduced Tiger Woods

    The art of adultery has been incorporated in the business models of Vegas clubs
    By Guy Adams


    Rachel Uchitel and Kalika Moquin have both been linked with Tiger Woods
    AP/REUTERS
    Rachel Uchitel and Kalika Moquin have both been linked with Tiger Woods
      READ MORE - The Sin City VIP service that seduced Tiger Woods

      Keep Cadbury British! Don't crumble, Flake girls tell shareholders as they consider selling the chocolate giant

      The stars of the famous Cadbury Flake commercials last night backed The Mail on Sunday’s campaign to keep the company British.
      Four of the most famous Flake girls – the models and actresses who appeared in what has been described as the sexiest advert on television – have spoken of their fears that Cadbury will fall into foreign hands.
      The four Flake girls join a remarkable 21,694 Mail on Sunday readers who have joined our Keep Cadbury British Campaign since it was launched just three weeks ago.
      Cadbury Flake Girl
      Cadbury Flake girl Alyssa, 2007
      American giant Kraft Foods has given Cadbury shareholders until January 5 to accept or reject an offer to buy them out of the company, as part of a £10.1billion hostile takeover bid.
      Cadbury will attempt to defend the shares tomorrow in an appeal to those who may be considering taking up the offer.
      Last night Hoima MacDonald, the original Flake girl who launched the iconic Sixties advertising campaign, said a takeover by Kraft Foods – which produces Hershey bars – should ‘not be allowed to happen’.
      Mrs MacDonald, 61, went to Portugal in 1968 to film the advert in which she waded into a lake before nibbling on a Flake. She said: ‘Cadbury is British and it is unthinkable that it would ever be anything else. The company is as British as a traditional Sunday roast or a pint of bitter.
      ‘I was extremely upset to hear about the possibility of an American takeover. It must not be allowed to happen.
      ‘Anyway, the taste of Cadbury chocolate is quite unlike anything else, creamy and delicious. We must fight this tooth and nail.’
      Cadbury Flake Girl
      Cadbury Flake Girl
      Sweet Memories: Catrina, 1983 (left) and Eva, 1971
      Mrs MacDonald, who now helps to run a shop selling art in Alton, Hampshire, says she is still regularly asked about her days as the first Cadbury Flake girl.
      The Streets star Mike Skinner and celebrity chef Antony Worrall Thompson, have already voiced their anger at news of the takeover bid.
      Lord Mandelson, the Business Secretary, also said the Government would oppose any buyer who failed to respect the traditions of the chocolate maker.
      One of the most recent of the 30 women to inherit the role of Flake girl, in 2007, is Alyssa Sutherland, 27, a supermodel from Australia. She is now based in New York, where she is building a career as an actress after a part in the film The Devil Wears Prada.
      She said: ‘If Hershey took over Cadbury, I worry that they would change the recipe.’
      Also keen to add her objection to the offer is Catrina Skepper, 47, now a
      television presenter, who starred in the commercial in 1983.
      Ms Skepper, who dated Prince Andrew shortly after the screening of her eating a Flake bar in a waterfall, said: ‘The traditions and the ethical values of Cadbury are so very British.
      'The brand is as British as Coca-Cola is American. It should remain so.’
      And Eva Rueber-Staier, who was the 1971 Flake girl after winning Miss World in 1969, was also concerned.
      Austrian-born Ms Rueber-Staier, who now lives with her husband Brian in Pinner, North-West London, said: ‘It really would be a shame for this takeover to happen. It is a British institution, such a long-standing part of British culture with its traditions.’
      READ MORE - Keep Cadbury British! Don't crumble, Flake girls tell shareholders as they consider selling the chocolate giant

      Adrianne Curry: I Love To Play 'World Of Warcraft' Naked And Stoned

      Adrianne Curry, America's Next Top Model winner, recently announced via Twitter her favorite way to spend a Sunday: playing World of Warcraft "butt naked" and "stoned."
      On Sunday she tweeted:
      jumping into shower.going to spend my afternoon playing World Of Warcraft butt naked&stoned.Perfect Sunday!
      She also took and tweeted out a picture of herself wearing a headset, sans clothes. (Caption, in case there was any confusion: "me...naked...playing World Of Warcraft"). Photo below.
      Adrianne Curry, America's Next Top Model winner, recently announced via Twitter her favorite way to spend a Sunday: playing World of Warcraft "butt naked" and "stoned." On Sunday she tweeted: jumpin...
      Adrianne Curry, America's Next Top Model winner, recently announced via Twitter her favorite way to spend a Sunday: playing World of Warcraft "butt naked" and "stoned." On Sunday she tweeted: jumpin...
       
      READ MORE - Adrianne Curry: I Love To Play 'World Of Warcraft' Naked And Stoned

      Stephen King says 'Twilight' author Stephenie Meyer 'can't write worth a darn'



       
      According to Stephen King, J.K. Rowling is "a terrific writer" while "Stephenie Meyer can't write worth a darn."
      Mr. King's views on Ms. Meyer's literary abilities came out during an interview with USA Weekend when he was asked if he believes his writing has been influential to today's up-and-coming scribblers, namely Ms. Rowling and Ms. Meyer.
      Mr. King went on to compare Twilight to the creations of another writer he called "terrible" but who was "very successful": Erle Stanley Gardner, author of the Perry Mason lawyer/mystery series.
      How does Mr. King explain the success of Twilight and books of its ilk? "People are attracted to the stories, the pace," says King. Twilight opens up "a kind of safe joining of love and sex...It's exciting and it's thrilling and it's not particularly threatening, because they're not overtly sexual. A lot of the physical side of it is conveyed in things like the vampire will touch her forearm or run a hand over skin, and she just flushes all hot and cold. And for girls, that's a shorthand for all the feelings that they're not ready to deal with yet."
      As you can imagine, the internet is erupting with Twi-hards venting their wrath upon the honest head of Mr. King.
      The books are loved by many, not only teens, idiot.
      griped one fan. Another went quite a bit farther:
      I think he's such a JERK! I'd like to say other things but we can't go swearing on here. What a moron! I haven't read his books, but what the heck?! He goes dissing Stephanie Meyer- I HAD to read all of her books b/c they were sooo good- and I'm 27- i have a complete life- the fact that he's like 'she writes pg material for hs girls" is such krap! What a donkey! Stephanie is OBVIOUSLY talented. WHo the heck asked for his opinion in the first place and why would he think he's qualified to critique her just b/c he's an author. What a limited mind he has!!! I feel like never picking up one of his dumb books! He is a machovanistic PIG! I had respect for him before b/c he's written so many best selling books but PUHLEASE! He's totally classless. He writes different types of books- why would he even comment on a totally differ type of book? I even went on his website and the way he answers his readers questions- he does it SoOO ARROGANTLY! AND he doesn't even have facebook or myspace or even a section on his website besides stupid Message forums (which I AM NOT GOING TO SIGN UP to just leave him a comment) so that we could leave him a COMMENT about his stupid CRITIQUES because he DOESN'T CARE WHAT THE PUBLIC THINKS (just look at the way he answers his fans' questions)! I could say more nasty things about him, but why even bother wasting my own personal time!
       
      Any defenders of Mr. King willing to step up to the plate?
      Cast your eye on the Book Examiner's defense of Mr. King: In defense of Mr. King, or What is good writing, anyway?
      Take a look at Team Twilight and Team Potter defend their literary loves in the Book Examiner Twilight versus Potter debate.
      So, what authors does Mr. King think are pretty darn great? Check out his list of recommended reading and a review of one of Mr. King's favorite series, Suzanne Collins' The Hunger Games
      Stephen King picks tunes for a desert island stint
      Stephen King gushes about audiobooks and names his 7 recommended books for summer reading
      10 reasons for the popularity of Twilight -- and the number one reason will probably surprise you
      Harold Bloom disses Stephen King and J.K. Rowling
      Did you know that Mr. King's first book, Carrie, was initally rejected by so many publishers, he kept a stack of rejection notices nailed to a spike in his bedroom? Take a look at more famous authors who overcame idiotic rejections on their way to fame
      The five most annoying literary romance...and the 5 most romantic ones
      The Deliciously Twisted Literary Character Hall of Fame and 10 books that will scare the hell out of you
      10 best books for treating Harry Potter withdrawal
      READ MORE - Stephen King says 'Twilight' author Stephenie Meyer 'can't write worth a darn'

      "Better Than Jackson Dying"



      Anyone think the media might be enjoying the Tiger Woods scandal?
      The boss of Yahoo certainly seems to be.
      “God bless Tiger,” Carol Bartz told a media conference in New York.
      The Tiger story has been driving traffic on every part of the site, she said.
      “This week we got a huge uplift: front page, news, sports, gossip. He just filtered through the whole place.
      And, then, she said this:
      “It is better than Michael Jackson dying. It is kind of hard to put an ad next to a funeral.”
      Even if you admire her candour it hardly seems right to be weighing up the death of one celebrity against the ‘transgressions’ of another.
      She may be saying what the whole world thinks, of course.
      But the Woods story has been a boon for the usually low-key magazine ‘Beverage Digest’
      It was reporting that sports drink maker Gatorade was dropping its ‘Tiger Focus’ line before the golf star hit the headlines (and a fire hydrant).
      In the last day or so, media around the world has jumped on the Gatorade decision as some kind of sign of advertisers losing faith in the Tiger brand.
      This is despite repeated statements from Gatorade that they made their decision months ago.
      Beverage Digest revealed that the reason behind the decision was a 34 per cent drop in sales in the first months of the year.
      One interesting line from the Wall Street Journal though. Research has shown that advertisers have been holding off showing Tiger ads on TV since the scandal broke.
      READ MORE - "Better Than Jackson Dying"

      The ten best world music albums of the Noughties

      Tinariwen
      Tinariwen impressed with The Radio Tisdas Sessions
      10. Made In Medina by Rachid Taha
      Now Africa Express’s Monsieur Rock El Casbah, Taha began the decade fusing electro-punk, disco and Algerian rai and never to more thrilling effect than on this electrifying assault on taste. Barra Barra and Garab still sound like an approaching apocalypse.
      9. Nothing’s In Vain by Youssou N’Dour
      The Senegalese superstar appeared a spent force in the 1990s, so his artistic rebirth came as some relief. With this acoustic album, he turned African artists’ eyes inward, to celebrate and strengthen indigenous culture rather than chase foreign patronage.
      8. Très Très Fort by Staff Benda Bilili
      The Zaireans’ back story involves polio, poverty and wheelchairs, but this was all about the funk. When these guys tell you to get up and dance like a sex machine, you know they won’t take “Sorry, my feet are sore” for an answer.
      7. Specialist In All Styles by Orchestra Baobab
      The best old-style Cuban album of the decade came from a group of sexagenarians in Senegal whose heyday had been the 1970s. Reunited, they rolled back the years and happily discovered they were what the world had been waiting for.
      6. Fado Curvo by Mariza
      Mariza took a discredited old music (in this case, fado, the Portuguese blues), made it contemporary and sexy and sold it to an audience that had previously ignored it. One appearance on Later With Jools Holland and she was a star.
      5. Moffou by Salif Keita
      Keita loves to experiment – not always successfully - with unlikely musical genres, but this lush return to simplicity may be his masterpiece. His voice (and those of his backing vocalists) is simply astonishing, the arrangements are superb and the playing immaculate.
      4. Buena Vista Social Club Presents Cachaito
      The bass player was the unsung hero of the Buena Vista saga, but put centre stage he produced arguably the best album of the series. An eclectic, free-wheeling yet accessible odyssey into Cuban jazz, its inventiveness never fails to surprise.
      3. The Living Road by Lhasa
      Is it her circus background that encourages Lhasa de Sela to terrify her listeners from the safety of the shadows? Her second album, sung in Spanish, French and English found her making merry in Nick Cave and Tom Waits’ territory.
      2. Dimanche A Bamako by Amadou & Mariam
      After 25 years making great soul-inspired albums, the husband-and-wife duo teamed up with the impish Manu Chao and let him rewrite their rule book. It’s a hot Sunday in the Malian capital and everybody wants to party. This is the soundtrack.
      1. The Radio Tisdas Sessions by Tinariwen
      The Tuaregs’ debut, recorded in a Saharan radio station, is the sound of the sands, stones and emptiness, filtered through a woozy wall of guitars. Today they are genuine rock stars, but this, in all its ragged glory, is the one.
      READ MORE - The ten best world music albums of the Noughties

      Why Men Should Fear the Rape Fantasy

      Of course you'd never force yourself on a woman, but what if she asked you to? Inside the most dangerous erotic play of all

      Jim was hiding between two bushes in the back yard, but lack of space was the least of his concerns. Standing next to a window so that he had a perfect view into a woman's bedroom—where, dressed in a thigh-length pink negligee, she was masturbating to porn—Jim had one main worry: that the woman's neighbors would see what he was doing, or worse, what he was about to do.
      Jim (not his real name), a 40-year-old Bay Area aviation manager, wasn't an ordinary Peeping Tom: The woman inside the house—let's call her Tina—had given him her address and told him when to show up. She'd also left the back door unlocked so that he could easily get in. Her instructions, however, were more explicit than that: He was to slap her across the face, throw her against the wall, and tie her up with rope she'd left for that very purpose. Jim, you see, was there to fulfill her sexual fantasy—or to try to.
      "After we'd been out maybe four or five times, she'd e-mailed me a very detailed and explicit rape fantasy that she said she wanted us to act out," Jim says of the attractive single mother he met on the S&M chat group called bondageagogo. "Reading it was a turn-on, because it was very sexual, but I wasn't turned off by the violence, either: She made it clear that her reactions to violence were positive. I was only apprehensive because I wasn't sure how realistic I could be for her."
      Although Tina said she was pleased with Jim's performance ("Her only complaint was that it was too short," he says) and the two of them took a post-rape shower together, Jim never felt comfortable making this particular dream come true for her again, and they amicably parted ways a few months later. "I was happy to help her out, but this was never my thing," says Jim, who describes himself as "not exactly your typical alpha male." "I knew that if it got to the point where I started to think of that as normal, it would affect my personal life."
      While the definition of normal is subjective, the popularity of fantasies like Tina's is not: In a 2009 study published in the Journal of Sex Research that evaluated female undergraduates at the University of North Texas, 62 percent of the women admitted to having rape fantasies, and 91 percent of those said their fantasies were either wholly or partially "erotic." Even in a mainstream movie like When Harry Met Sally, Sally told Harry that she dreamed of a "faceless guy" ripping off her ever-altering clothes. But just as there's a difference between Harlequin daydreams and full-on rape fantasies, there's a difference between knowing your girlfriend is turned on by sexual-assault scenarios and being asked to act one out.

      Obviously—and thankfully—the vast majority of men learn early that forcing themselves on women is wrong. But pretending to rape a woman in order to get her off is a far cry from actually raping her. "This fantasy has little resemblance to her real desires. Nor does it mean that she's actually been abused or raped," says Dr. Gail Saltz, a psychiatrist and the author of The Ripple Effect: How Better Sex Can Lead to a Better Life—which says that rape is the most common female sexual fantasy. The primary appeal for women, as Saltz sees it, is the concept that "someone would take them at all costs—the idea that 'I'm so unbelievably desirable that he just loses his mind.'" Many experts believe that women use the fantasies to alleviate guilt. "The common theme is that these women somehow feel bad about being sexual," says addiction specialist and radio host Dr. Drew Pinsky. "These fantasies give them license to say, 'I couldn't help myself—I was being raped' as an excuse."
      Laura (not her real name), a 26-year-old author of young-adult fiction, was drawn to play out rape fantasies because they offered an escape from her over-ordered life. "I'm so on top of everything all day, so it's a release to have someone else take control and dominate," she says. She's never used safe words or laid out the specifics of what she wants from the role-playing, and one of the three men she's had "rape" her went too far. "He pushed me really hard and pulled my hair, and I wanted him to stop and he wouldn't," Laura recalls. "I wasn't sure if it was still a scene we were acting out or not." According to experts, it's crucial that couples establish boundaries and agree on safe words before attempting to re-create a rape fantasy. Just ask 25-year-old T.J., a stay-at-home dad in Texas, who began regularly acting out these scenarios with his wife. One night she told him that she wanted him to go further, so "I grabbed her from behind and shoved her down," T.J. says. "She was pretty much fighting me tooth and nail." In the process, T.J. (not his real name) found he had tapped into memories of being molested by a couple when he was 12. "I really lost it. A lot of anger and bitterness and rage came up," he says. "And it actually really turned me on to get in touch with that rage. And then I got dependent on it: Now I can't keep it up for regular sex." The good news for T.J. is that his inability to perform has been pretty much a nonissue. The bad? The reason is that his wife "got completely freaked out by what happened—we didn't even talk to each other for a few days afterward," and their sex life has dropped off precipitously.

      Like with most psychological phenomena, there's no direct explanation for why some women are turned on by the notion of force while others are aroused by the idea of making love in a field of daisies—only speculation. "I believe it's related to childhood experiences of being reprimanded or controlled or overpowered," Saltz says. "Early, primitive feelings of aggression are often wrapped up with libido." That might explain the case of 34-year-old Nicole (not her real name). "When I was growing up, my parents really made me feel like my emotions made me unlovable," she says. The rape fantasy appeals to her because, she says, "it's like someone's angry or unhappy with you but still paying a lot of attention to you—as opposed to in real life, when, if you're acting unlovable, people just leave you alone."
      Regardless of what gives it allure, the rape fantasy is a powder keg of sexual politics. Common sense dictates that you always consider worst-case scenarios when deciding whether or not to duct-tape a woman's mouth shut as she begs you to stop. Although Josh (not his real name), a 28-year-old from Mississippi, didn't end up in cuffs after he followed his then girlfriend's directions to break into her house and hold her down during rough sex, he's aware that he could have. "About a year after that, she attacked me when I tried to stop her from going after her mom with a kitchen knife," he says, adding that his ex was bipolar. "When I was fulfilling her fantasy, I was in that early, puppy-dog-love stage, where I would have done anything to please her. It was only later that I realized I could have really gotten into trouble."
      Ironically, according to some experts, it's an increasing problem that many men are not educated about their right to draw the line. "You don't want to be in a position where you're going to be doing something that's really horrifying to you," Saltz says. "Keep in mind that you can always say, 'Let's go carefully' or 'No.'" Now men who understand that no means no just have to hope that women do too.


      READ MORE - Why Men Should Fear the Rape Fantasy

      Should You Get a Sex Coach?

      Some guys have discovered the cure for the bedroom blues—another woman.

      Bob (not his real name), a 30-year-old financial adviser in West Palm Beach, Florida, was having a hard time getting it up. Because of the limp economy, he worked long hours to pull in much-needed cash—and the routine was killing his sex life. When he was with his wife, he just couldn't perform. Masturbation came easy, however: He did the deed three times a week, sometimes with the aid of porn, saying it helped him "relieve stress." This went on for six months before Bob's wife suggested therapy.
      The two agreed to see a 30-year-old psychologist named Rachel Needle, who specializes in sexual dysfunction and sexual compulsiveness. She diagnosed Bob with psychogenic erectile dysfunction, essentially ruling that his problem was between his ears, not his legs. The stress of work combined with guilt over his porn habit was making him anxious—and flaccid in bed with his wife.
      Needle eased Bob's anxiety by telling him that looking at porn—even introducing porn-driven fantasies into the bedroom—is perfectly acceptable. She recommended homework—more specifically a regimen of "non-demand sensate focus exercises"—through which Bob and his wife proceeded from heavy petting to self-masturbation to oral sex without the pressure of intercourse. The strategy worked—Bob's erections returned after a few sessions—but talking openly about sex with his wife and Needle also played a big part in his recovery. It surely didn't hurt that Needle has wavy, sandy-blond hair, a beaming smile, and a perpetual tan. Putting it plainly, she's kind of hot, and sitting there with Needle and his wife, engaging in often explicit sexual conversation . . . Let's just say that a guy might not mind going to therapy. "Most people are anxious talking about stuff they've never talked about before," Needle says. "With Bob, I started using humor and then he used humor and the whole experience was nice and light."
      Sexual dysfunction may not be the stuff of dinner conversation, but it's hardly a taboo subject any longer. A steady barrage of Viagra and Cialis advertising has seen to that. And when a celebrity like David Duchovny admits to sexual addiction and agrees to enter treatment, as he did in late August, it encourages others to open up about their bedroom nightmares. But don't discount the contribution of a bold generation of young female counselors who have succeeded in lifting the veil of shame, making it easier for young couples to seek help for their damaged love lives.
      0108deffst02blog

      Equal parts sex kitten and sex therapist, Dr. Joy Davidson is the poster babe for this new breed of professional. Based in New York, she has become the go-to sexpert for cable news; her website, joydavidson.com, is a virtual candy store for self-help, offering clips such as "New Tricks for Better Sex: Cowgirl."

      When it comes to improving a man's sex life, Davidson is all about open dialogue, and she's unabashed about being sexy herself. She cautions, however, that owning up to sexual dysfunction and getting your mojo back can be very difficult. "It's a long process that involves many different approaches," she says. "It requires a commitment to homework," and, for young men in particular, a shift in the way they "experience themselves sexually."
      Men with debilitating performance issues can point to any number of environmental causes. Dr. Betsy Crane, director of the Human Sexuality Education Program at Widener University, in Chester, Pennsylvania, is concerned about Internet porn because she fears it can lure "normal" guys into measuring themselves against porn stars. The aforementioned Viagra and Cialis ads, which make erectile dysfunction seem like a bout of hay fever, may also foster anxiety, she says. And as if that weren't enough, average Joes have to contend with the advance of metrosexual culture and homoerotic imagery—chiseled bodies; above-average packages; exceptional good looks. Add to that a marked rise in the use of antidepressants and an economy on the skids, and you get "a lot of social changes that are affecting young men's sex lives," Crane says.
      Chicago therapist Kimberly Sharky, 30, can also relate to her clients' problems, particularly those linked to the burdens of work. "There are things young professionals can do," she says, "like send a different text message—one that builds sexual energy, something like 'I'm in this meeting and all I can think about is getting my hands on you.'"
      0108deffst03blog

      One of her patients, Don (not his real name), a 33-year-old physical trainer, was driven to therapy by tedium. He had dated his wife for a decade before they married. By the time he reached his honeymoon, his sex life was in the doldrums. Instead of newlywed bliss, he says, he was experiencing a lack of desire more often found in men in their forties. "It became the 600-pound gorilla masturbating in the living room," he says.
      The sessions with Sharky provided the boost Don needed. He talked with her about looking for pointers at a tantric workshop, and even broached the idea of keeping a girlfriend on the side. Many experts would dismiss that notion instantly, but Sharky was more open-minded. "She was comforting, not judgmental," Don says. Instead of shooting the suggestion down, she explained the challenges of a polyamorous relationship, stressing the importance of setting clear limits and managing expectations with his wife.
      And therein lies the allure of the thirtysomething sexpert: Not only is she pleasing to the eyes but she's also familiar with the social mores of her peers and the sexual vocabulary of the day. And therefore she's likely to greet you with a sympathetic ear.
      So is it okay to lust after your therapist?
      "It's extremely normal and expected," Needle says, "given the intimacy, safety, and comfort established in a therapeutic relationship. The therapist is warm, accepting, trusting, empathic. All of these are characteristics people desire in a partner."

      Just don't expect reciprocation. That sort of thing is still off-limits.

      READ MORE - Should You Get a Sex Coach?

      The Five Creepiest Substitutes For a Woman

      We admit it: Women can be difficult. Consequently, scientists (and in some cases, seamstresses), have been working around the clock to develop new products that liberate you from the impossible demands associated with actual human contact. Here are some recent masterpieces:

      November 6, 2009
      The Fleshlight

      You know, like a flashlight! Except with a vagina! This discrete plastic canister secretly houses a washable pink silicon rubber "masturbation sleeve," available in 7 different textures—from "vortex" to "speed bump"—and a variety of orifices, including "mouth," "lady," and "butt" (use your imagination). Also available from the company: "Sex in a Can"—which kind of looks like an energy drink. Except with a vagina.
      The Funktionide

      German designer Stefan Ulrich thinks "people will turn to robots for the illusion of a living presence to satisfy their emotional needs." So he built the Funktionide, which is essentially a giant white body pillow with one crucial difference: It breathes. Thanks to "electroactive polymers" that change shape when an electric current is applied, the Funktionide provides very lonely Germans "with an atmosphere of presence thus counteracting the feeling of loneliness." Because staying home on a Saturday night with your shape-shifting pillow won't feel lonely at all.
      RealDolls

      Not just for Lars anymore, these things are fully functioning (and I think we all know the primary function), ultra-realistic, life-size, fleshlike companions. You can build your own special "lady" online like something out of Weird Science, and the nice people at Abyss Creations will assemble her for you. The bad news is that pubic hair costs an extra $100. But the good news is they're now shipping free! Which is more than you can say for most mail-order brides. Plus, they're fully serviceable (as in repairable, you pervert).
      "Moe" Pillows

      It was only a matter of time, really, before the country that gave us vending machines of soiled schoolgirl panties one-upped itself. No doubt you're already aware of a subculture of Japanese men who want nothing more than to do it with anime characters. Well, over the last few years its members have begun applying their muses' likenesses to huge pillowcases, stuffing them, and subsequently falling in love with them. Now you can too!

      The Flip Hole

      Already a winner by virtue of its name alone, the Flip Hole also (perhaps not so surprisingly) hails from Japan—where a crack team of masturbatologists toiled long and hard to bring you a self-pleasuring device so advanced, so technologically superior, it makes an actual vagina seem quainter than a Jensen steam engine. Its interior contains such inscrutable features as the "Click Orb," "Side Rib," and "Wing Gate." And the promotional video makes you feel like you're docking in some scary alien spaceship from the future. Which is probably what entering a real vagina seems like to the people who buy this thing.
      Honorable Mention: the "Autoblow" Robotic blow job

      Didn't Harrison Ford get one of these in Blade Runner—like, 27 years ago?

      READ MORE - The Five Creepiest Substitutes For a Woman